You notice the same thing, and go about it differently.
You see the signs of what is coming at the same depth. Two people who contemplate life from a distance. And yet one chooses not to possess, and the other stores carefully.
INFP and INTP compatibility in brief (love, work, friendship)
INFP × INTP is the Kindred relation, one of the sixteen. You notice the same thing, and go about it differently.
LoveAn agreement not to touch each other's sore spots, emotional closeness and aphorisms, works.WorkAsk the other for execution and it becomes mutual blame.Friends & conversationFor a short time, the best.
Written as INTP × INFP it is the same pair. In 16Personalities terms, the Mediator and the Logician.
In conversation, only the two of you catch on the same sign of what is coming. INFP is drawn to INTP's systematic thinking and enjoys exchanging judgements. Where you want to rest and where you overstrain are the same too. The sensory foundation and the force to push are absent in both.
INFP starts emotional closeness and tries to awaken INTP's feeling. A false harmony arises for a while, and eventually INTP sees the intensity of INFP's feeling as intrusion and retaliates with aphorisms and mockery.
In the old observations, in kindred relations the role function and the leading function are carried by the same element, and it does not reach complete identification. For these two, the eye that reads the signs of what is coming is the same; whether it is used for not possessing or for storing differs. INFP suspects deceit in INTP's roundabout way of speaking, and the warmth INTP promised depends on their mood. Since both think there is no way this could fail to mesh, the drop is all the greater.
The side that says it is better not to possess, and the side that stores carefully.
There are moments when you cannot acknowledge the other
In practical matters, INTP gives advice, INFP cannot execute, and really wants INTP to do it. INTP does it resentfully, and INFP withdraws. Mutual blame over responsibility.
INFP flees in search of colour and life; INTP feigns indifference and is hurt at being left. When the support of a home fails, both depend on a friend's house, INFP fed by charm and INTP by inducing guilt. The observed form of two people lacking a sensory foundation.
How each sees the other
INFP → INTP
They see the same future.
But they store. The practical minimum.
And they stab with aphorisms.
INTP → INFP
They see the same future. Boring at first, and then you came to like them.
But they do not possess.
And they approach with feeling.
What has been recorded
SCENE 01Boring at first, and then
"Boring at first, and then I came to like them." The entrance of an IEI and an ILI quoted in the observation.
SCENE 02Today is not a holiday
The IEI holds a philosophy that "it is better not to possess"; the ILI lives on a practical minimum of stores. The IEI went hungry on tasteless grain, was told "today is not a holiday", and fled the ILI's "bunker" in search of colour and life. "If you don't like it, leave."
SCENE 03At a friend's house
When the support of a home failed, both depended on a friend's house, the IEI by charm and the ILI by inducing guilt, and exhausted the friend with lodging, meals and laundry, the record says.
Love, living together, work, family: scene by scene
ConversationFor a short time, the best.
RomanceAn agreement not to touch each other's sore spots, emotional closeness and aphorisms, works.
Living togetherDecide the line between stores and luxury first.
WorkAsk the other for execution and it becomes mutual blame.
FamilyHave the sensory foundation outside.
If you keep going
Do not aim feeling and aphorisms at each other
Just removing these two from the agenda changes the relationship.
Make holidays
Put small celebrations in the schedule.
Have the sensory foundation outside
By a system, before you exhaust your friends.
For these two
How to meet ── Working on the same problem
A relation that notices the same things. Committees, projects, helping with a move. The person who said "isn't this weird?" at the same moment: that is the one.
Approach ── Leave the method to them
You notice the same things, and proceed differently. Push your own steps and you quarrel. Split the jobs and do not comment on their way.
A date ── A day with roles
Cooking together, DIY, planning a trip. With a purpose, these two are at ease. Time without a purpose feels a little long.
Gifts ── for INFP, Deciding, and taking them along; for INTP, Action
For INFP: Less a thing than a date fixed and an outing. What INFP is waiting for is a force that pushes. For INTP: Take them out. Book it and pick them up. The movement INTP does not start alone.
PROne thing for this relation
A relation that notices the same thing and proceeds differently, so tools to align the method.
The side that does not possess and the side that stores.
INFP left
Fleeing the bunker in search of colour, the observation says.
They look like a good person with other people
When the other's hand is not aimed at you, they look plainly good.
What is INFP and INTP compatibility in love?
An agreement not to touch each other's sore spots, emotional closeness and aphorisms, works. More under "Love, living together, work, family: scene by scene" and "If you keep going".
Do INFP and INTP work well together?
Ask the other for execution and it becomes mutual blame. More under "Love, living together, work, family: scene by scene" and "If you keep going".
This pair is the kindred relation, one of the sixteen. How the relation itself arises, and how to tell it from the others, is on the relation page.
The two Model A's: what talks to what
INFP on the left, INTP on the right. Each shows where the eight elements sit; lines connect the same element. Where each line starts and ends decides what happens in this relation.
Lines connect the same element in the other person's structure. 1–2 (strong) 3 (role) 4 (vulnerable) 5–6 (wanted) 7–8 (capable, indifferent)
1 → 1NiINFP's 1 (leading) Ni (introverted intuition) sits in INTP's position 1 (leading). Both strong here. Same ground: fast understanding, and some rivalry.
2 → 4FeINFP's 2 (creative) Fe (extraverted ethics) sits in INTP's position 4 (vulnerable). What INFP does as a matter of course lands on INTP's sore spot. Pressure without malice.
3 → 3SiINFP's 3 (role) Si (introverted sensing) sits in INTP's position 3 (role). Both weak. The same thing goes wrong for both.
4 → 2TeINFP's 4 (vulnerable) Te (extraverted logic) sits in INTP's position 2 (creative). INTP leads exactly where INFP is weak. INFP feels seen through.
5 → 5SeINFP's 5 (suggestive) Se (extraverted sensing) sits in INTP's position 5 (suggestive). Both want it, neither has it. Must come from outside.
6 → 8TiINFP's 6 (mobilizing) Ti (introverted logic) sits in INTP's position 8 (demonstrative). INTP could give it but does not think to. Comes when INFP asks in words.
7 → 7NeINFP's 7 (ignoring) Ne (extraverted intuition) sits in INTP's position 7 (ignoring). Both capable, both indifferent. Left alone.
8 → 6FiINFP's 8 (demonstrative) Fi (introverted ethics) sits in INTP's position 6 (mobilizing). INFP has what INTP wants without noticing. Appears only when asked.