Two people to whom talk of the heart gets through. Looking at the same person, you speak in different words. But in trouble, help you do not want to give is drawn out.
INFP and INFJ compatibility in brief (love, work, friendship)
INFP × INFJ is the Quasi-identity relation, one of the sixteen. The same words, a different view.
LoveNeither wounding nor supporting each other.WorkPulling toward your own poles, you enrich each other.Friends & conversationTalk of the heart gets through.
Written as INFJ × INFP it is the same pair. In 16Personalities terms, the Mediator and the Advocate.
INFP enters from the flow and moves by the mood of the room. INFJ enters from the ethics of people and opens by possibilities. People, the heart, meaning. Interests overlap, and INFP's "the mood now" and INFJ's "the relationship as it should be" point in different directions within the same conversation.
In terms of positions, your strong places are of the same kind, with the direction reversed. The "intuition that reads the flow" and "emotion that moves the room" INFP uses consciously, INFJ holds unconsciously, and what INFJ uses consciously is the "ethics of people" and the "eye that opens possibilities". INFP holds those unconsciously. That is, each "knows" the other's strength. Knowing it, it gets through; only knowing it, you cannot learn.
In the old description, this relation is "attainable but far from ideal" for marriage, and "good results in a compatible field" for work cooperation.
The weak functions are weak in both.
Help that gets drawn out
INFP waits for the force to push through; INFJ waits for practical logic. Both are the other's sore spot, and in trouble no support comes.
The weak places do not mesh. The "force that pushes through" INFP wants most is INFJ's most painful fourth. The "practical logic" INFJ wants is INFP's fourth. Each asks for what the other does not have, and lacks what the other asks for. In ordinary times you coexist calmly on parallel lines; in trouble you try to draw out help, and are irritated that none comes.
With matching subtypes it is calm; mismatched, the disapproval grows. In joint work, each quietly pulls matters toward their own pole and enriches the other. The tolerance that forgives weakness is these two's strength.
How each sees the other
INFP → INFJ
They see the relationship as it should be.
They make light of mood.
They ask you for the practical side.
INFJ → INFP
They read the flow.
No interest in how things should be.
They ask you for the force to push.
What has been recorded
SCENE 01Help you do not want to give
The weak places are weak in both. In trouble, help you do not want to give is drawn out, and the inability to support becomes mutual irritation, the record says.
SCENE 02The same book, as a different book
Even reading the same book, you speak as if you had read different works. You may use the other's advice, but learning from them is hard. The circuit the other uses as a matter of course is foreign to you: Augustinavičiūtė's observation.
SCENE 03Neither wounding nor supporting
The sore spots and the wanted spots hardly overlap, so you do not deeply wound each other. You coexist calmly on parallel lines. Long in a closed small group you tire rapidly, and the sense of "understanding without being able to imitate" piles up: Augustinavičiūtė's observation.
Love, living together, work, family: scene by scene
ConversationTalk of the heart gets through.
RomanceNeither wounding nor supporting each other.
Living togetherIn trouble, help is drawn out.
WorkPulling toward your own poles, you enrich each other.
FamilyCalm, on parallel lines.
If you keep going
Put help outside
Otherwise it gets drawn out.
Forgive weakness
These two's strength.
Look at the subtype
Mismatched, the disapproval grows.
For these two
How to meet ── In front of people
A relation that sees different views in the same words. Meetings, parties, places with an audience. A good pair in public, so meeting there leaves a good impression.
Approach ── Do not hurry the conclusion
The talk fits. The conclusion does not. Do not try to change theirs; stop at "so that's how you see it". Enjoy the same book as a different book.
A date ── Somewhere crowded
A festival, a market, a big exhibition. Walking side by side among people is easier for these two than long hours alone.
Gifts ── for INFP, Deciding, and taking them along; for INFJ, Practical help
For INFP: Less a thing than a date fixed and an outing. What INFP is waiting for is a force that pushes. For INFJ: Helping to tidy, a useful tool. What INFJ is waiting for is hands that move.
PROne thing for this relation
A relation that sees different views in the same words, so tools to set the views side by side.
Podcast equipmentThe conversation of these two comes alive when others listen.
Frequently asked
In trouble, my partner does nothing
The weak functions are weak in both, the record says.
Calm, yet distant
Coexistence on parallel lines.
At work it is good
The form of pulling toward your own poles is recorded.
What is INFP and INFJ compatibility in love?
Neither wounding nor supporting each other. More under "Love, living together, work, family: scene by scene" and "If you keep going".
Do INFP and INFJ work well together?
Pulling toward your own poles, you enrich each other. More under "Love, living together, work, family: scene by scene" and "If you keep going".
This pair is the quasi-identity relation, one of the sixteen. How the relation itself arises, and how to tell it from the others, is on the relation page.
The two Model A's: what talks to what
INFP on the left, INFJ on the right. Each shows where the eight elements sit; lines connect the same element. Where each line starts and ends decides what happens in this relation.
Lines connect the same element in the other person's structure. 1–2 (strong) 3 (role) 4 (vulnerable) 5–6 (wanted) 7–8 (capable, indifferent)
1 → 8NiINFP's 1 (leading) Ni (introverted intuition) sits in INFJ's position 8 (demonstrative). INFJ can do what INFP is good at but does not value it. INFP feels slightly unappreciated.
2 → 7FeINFP's 2 (creative) Fe (extraverted ethics) sits in INFJ's position 7 (ignoring). INFJ can do what INFP is good at but does not value it. INFP feels slightly unappreciated.
3 → 6SiINFP's 3 (role) Si (introverted sensing) sits in INFJ's position 6 (mobilizing). INFP is weak here and INFJ wants it. A gap neither can fill.
4 → 5TeINFP's 4 (vulnerable) Te (extraverted logic) sits in INFJ's position 5 (suggestive). INFP is weak here and INFJ wants it. A gap neither can fill.
5 → 4SeINFP's 5 (suggestive) Se (extraverted sensing) sits in INFJ's position 4 (vulnerable). What INFP asks for is INFJ's weakest point. The more INFP asks, the smaller INFJ gets.
6 → 3TiINFP's 6 (mobilizing) Ti (introverted logic) sits in INFJ's position 3 (role). What INFP asks for is INFJ's weakest point. The more INFP asks, the smaller INFJ gets.
7 → 2NeINFP's 7 (ignoring) Ne (extraverted intuition) sits in INFJ's position 2 (creative). INFJ's main field is one INFP does not care about. Little friction, little interest.
8 → 1FiINFP's 8 (demonstrative) Fi (introverted ethics) sits in INFJ's position 1 (leading). INFJ's main field is one INFP does not care about. Little friction, little interest.