My partner makes light of housework

Both think chores are stealing time from creation.

What is ENFJ and ENFJ compatibility in love?

It lasts in the form where one serves, and splits on the day equality is demanded. More under "Love, living together, work, family: scene by scene" and "If you keep going".

Do ENFJ and ENFJ work well together?

One play does not need two directors. More under "Love, living together, work, family: scene by scene" and "If you keep going".

a pair in the sixteen relations

ENFJ×ENFJ

EIE × EIE

Identity

Half a sentence, and it gets through.

Half a sentence, and it gets through. Someone who chases the same ideal with the same heat. But a small party does not need two leaders.

ENFJ and ENFJ compatibility in brief (love, work, friendship)

ENFJ × ENFJ is the Identity relation, one of the sixteen. Half a sentence, and it gets through.

LoveIt lasts in the form where one serves, and splits on the day equality is demanded.WorkOne play does not need two directors.Friends & conversationTalk of ideals goes endlessly deep.

Written as ENFJ × ENFJ it is the same pair. In 16Personalities terms, the Protagonist and the Protagonist.

ENFJ — The conductor ENFJ — The conductor Identity

No explanation needed

Strongly bound by ideals and convictions. Political leader and aide, master and comrade in a doctrine, director and actress. One serves the ideal for the other's sake; the other serves only the ideal.

In terms of the mechanism, the "emotion that moves the room" in ENFJ's first position and the "intuition that reads the flow" in the second sit in exactly the same positions in the other. The view you are best at, the other is best at too. So no explanation is needed, and so no new perspective comes from the other either. The strong places overlap, and do not double.

In the old observations, in identity the same elements of both act in the same positions, and a complete, painless repulsion arises. Since no words are needed, there is also nothing the other can hand you. For these two, practical matters and care of the body are absent on both sides.

The observation says the alliance is firm while convictions are in step, and splits the moment one gains standing and demands equality.

One play does not need two directors.

Without me

"Without me, you would have been nobody." Each attributes the other's success to their own influence, blames the other's obvious faults, and does not see the shared blind spot.

The empty places are the same too. The "sensing that keeps the body in order" ENFJ wants most is what the other wants most, and neither has it. The "force that pushes through", which each produces with a little effort, takes a little effort from both. What flows in silently between duals never flowed between these two in the first place.

The house does not run. One makes light of the effort of housework; the other resents creative time being taken by chores. Warnings about who around them can be trusted never stop, and each thinks they can see well enough themselves.

In the end, realising the relationship is a burden and that they hinder each other, it takes the form of friends at a neutral distance.

How each sees the other

ENFJ → ENFJ

The same ideal, with the same heat.

Bound by conviction.

You want to serve at their side.

ENFJ → ENFJ

"Without me", they say.

They make light of the household.

"That person cannot be trusted", they say, constantly.

What has been recorded

SCENE 01The one who serves the ideal for the other, and the one who serves only the ideal
She served the ideal for his sake; he served only the ideal. While their convictions were in step it was a firm alliance, the record says.
SCENE 02Refusing second place
A case where, from the moment the woman gained influence and standing, refused second place and demanded equality, it turned into blaming each other's faults.
SCENE 03Friends, at a neutral distance
The observation: realising that the relationship was a burden and that they were hindering each other, they continued as friends at a neutral distance.

A pair on record

Martin Luther King Jr. (EIE) × Malcolm X (EIE)

Typing: both types agree across several published sources

Two leaders of the same movement. They criticised each other fiercely over policy and met face to face only once. Late in life their positions drew closer, but they never became one party.

What matches: a small party cannot hold two leaders; while the ideals are in step, an alliance.

Love, living together, work, family: scene by scene

ConversationTalk of ideals goes endlessly deep.

RomanceIt lasts in the form where one serves, and splits on the day equality is demanded.

Living togetherThe house does not run.

WorkOne play does not need two directors.

FamilyContinuing as friends at a neutral distance is the observed form.

If you keep going

Divide the command: Do not put two leaders in the same room.
Do not say "without me": Do not attribute the other's success to yourself.
Run the house by a system: Neither of you runs it.

For these two

How to meet ── Deep inside the same hobby: A relation needing no explanation. Specialist gatherings, fans of the same author, the same sport. The person it got through to at once: that is the one.
Approach ── Connect through what is interesting: The bond between these two is interest alone. Interesting talk over talk of daily life. It ends when the interest ends, so keep the interest alive.
A date ── The same thing, side by side: A day of doing the same hobby side by side. The care of daily life comes from neither, so eat out.
Gifts ── same type; for both, Something consistent: A book with clean logic, a tool with structure. What puts a spine into ENFJ's heat. What you would be glad to receive is exactly right for the other. But you easily give each other the same thing on the same day, so hand it over first, or shift it a little.

PROne thing for this relation

A relation that gets through from half a sentence, so experiences needing no explanation.

Two sets of the same hobby gearFor two who enjoy the same thing at the same speed.
A service that takes daily chores outsideWhat comes from neither, put outside.
A senior's bookIdentity is most useful when learning.

Frequently asked

We quarrelled the moment we became equals: Exactly as observed.
My partner makes light of housework: Both think chores are stealing time from creation.
It is tiring, like looking at myself: A feature of identity.
What is ENFJ and ENFJ compatibility in love?: It lasts in the form where one serves, and splits on the day equality is demanded. More under "Love, living together, work, family: scene by scene" and "If you keep going".
Do ENFJ and ENFJ work well together?: One play does not need two directors. More under "Love, living together, work, family: scene by scene" and "If you keep going".

This pair is the identity relation, one of the sixteen. How the relation itself arises, and how to tell it from the others, is on the relation page.

The two Model A's: what talks to what

ENFJ on the left, ENFJ on the right. Each shows where the eight elements sit; lines connect the same element. Where each line starts and ends decides what happens in this relation.

Lines connect the same element in the other person's structure. 1–2 (strong) 3 (role) 4 (vulnerable) 5–6 (wanted) 7–8 (capable, indifferent)

1 → 1FeENFJ's 1 (leading) Fe (extraverted ethics) sits in ENFJ's position 1 (leading). Both strong here. Same ground: fast understanding, and some rivalry.

2 → 2NiENFJ's 2 (creative) Ni (introverted intuition) sits in ENFJ's position 2 (creative). Both strong here. Same ground: fast understanding, and some rivalry.

3 → 3TeENFJ's 3 (role) Te (extraverted logic) sits in ENFJ's position 3 (role). Both weak. The same thing goes wrong for both.

4 → 4SiENFJ's 4 (vulnerable) Si (introverted sensing) sits in ENFJ's position 4 (vulnerable). Both weak. The same thing goes wrong for both.

5 → 5TiENFJ's 5 (suggestive) Ti (introverted logic) sits in ENFJ's position 5 (suggestive). Both want it, neither has it. Must come from outside.

6 → 6SeENFJ's 6 (mobilizing) Se (extraverted sensing) sits in ENFJ's position 6 (mobilizing). Both want it, neither has it. Must come from outside.

7 → 7FiENFJ's 7 (ignoring) Fi (introverted ethics) sits in ENFJ's position 7 (ignoring). Both capable, both indifferent. Left alone.

8 → 8NeENFJ's 8 (demonstrative) Ne (extraverted intuition) sits in ENFJ's position 8 (demonstrative). Both capable, both indifferent. Left alone.

Other pairs in the «Identity»

ENFP × ENFP ENTJ × ENTJ ENTP × ENTP ESFJ × ESFJ ESFP × ESFP ESTJ × ESTJ ESTP × ESTP INFJ × INFJ INFP × INFP INTJ × INTJ INTP × INTP ISFJ × ISFJ ISFP × ISFP ISTJ × ISTJ ISTP × ISTP

This page is also available in Japanese: ENFJ と ENFJ の相性. Русская версия: ENFJ × ENFJ.

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