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Illusionary
幻影 · Миражные
Time that need not hurry is there.
幻影 ／ one of the sixteen relations
Being together, the tension goes. Nothing is demanded, nothing has to be explained. As time for resting, it is among the finest combinations of the sixteen.
ILLUSIONARY
01 When you first meet
Comfortable
The wavelengths match. No need to force liveliness, and silence does not bother. Your breathing does not go shallow when together. The sense of daily life is close, so no detailed explanation is needed either.
At this stage it can feel very like duality. In fact, as far as ease goes, it really is easy. It is not a false comfort.
The name of this relation does not mean the comfort is fake. It means that beyond the comfort, not much happens.
02 After a while
It stops just short
Eventually a moment comes when you really need help. Decide for me, push me, take this on. But there, the other person does not move.
Not that they cannot. Where they put out their strength and where you are asking for it are slightly out of line. They come as far as just short. The last step does not come.
The same is happening on their side. Each fails to get from the other what they had assumed the other would do. There is no reason to blame, so it never becomes words.
03 If it is to last
Stopped, and on good terms
The relation does not break. It often lasts long. Only, while the two are together, things do not move much. Plans go undecided, decisions are put off, life continues as it is.
Because it is comfortable, no complaint arises about this in itself. Choose the purpose and this is a very valuable relation. Time to recover, a long-lasting friend. The distance is fixed, so it does not collapse.
Someone to move things forward with can be found elsewhere. These two have something only these two can do.
Telling it from duality
Both are relations that are easy to be in. The quality of the ease differs.
- Only easy, or moving
- In duality, things move forward when the two are together. In illusionary they do not. The comfort is the same, but here they divide.
- Does it move at the crucial point
- In duality, the other works exactly where you are really in trouble. In illusionary, comfortable in daily life yet out of reach at the crucial moment.
- Not tiring, or loosening
- In duality, tiredness decreases while active. In illusionary, it becomes easy because activity itself stops. Alike, but the presence of movement differs.
Where this relation is useful
Choose the purpose and it is among the hardest to come by of the sixteen.
- Time to recover
- When you are worn down, time with this person works well. People who demand nothing and need no explanation are not many.
- As a long-lasting friend
- If the relation does not move something forward jointly, this combination lasts very long. The distance is fixed, so it does not collapse.
- Split the roles in joint work
- Where decision and execution continue, deciding who leads or placing a third person between makes it function.
PROne thing for this relation
A relation with time that need not hurry, so tools for resting.
- A hot-spring or spa bookingFor resting together, a comfortable partner.
- A good blanketAs a place to rest, the best there is.
- Coffee gear for twoCoffee in bed, the record says.
Works that draw this relation
Chosen from works where the relationship between the two is itself the centre of the story.
- Lost in Translation2003 · film · US
Together, the tension goes. But nothing moves forward. Comfort and standstill live side by side to the end.
This is not a typing of the characters. They are listed as examples where the shape of this relation is drawn clearly.
Songs this relation runs through
Chosen from songs whose subject is exactly what happens between the two.
- Kaze wo AtsumeteHappy End · 1971
Nothing happens, and only the comfort continues. A rare song where standstill holds as beauty.
- Sunday MorningMaroon 5 · 2004
Music of a state where time has stopped. The air of a relation in which not moving is no complaint.
No lyrics are quoted. The songs are listed for the shape of relation they deal with.
Illusionary in Model A: what talks to what
Example: INTJ and ESTJ. Every pair in this relation connects the same positions in the same way; only the elements inside change.
Lines connect the same element in the other person's structure. 1–2 (strong) 3 (role) 4 (vulnerable) 5–6 (wanted) 7–8 (capable, indifferent)
The 8 pairs in this relation
Illusionary is symmetric: it looks the same from either side.